Tuesday, July 15, 2008

The Big Blow Up

For Part One Click Here

So it was about a week before Easter when Jason told me that he wanted a separation. I knew that things were strained between us, but I had no idea that this was coming. I was devastated. We had only been married about 3 years at that point and Henry had just turned 2. Before I married Jason I had been a single mother for 7 years, raising 2 kids. I just could not imagine going through that again. And with another small child to boot!

I asked him if there was someone else and he denied it (of course). But with some not to difficult detective work on my part, I figured out who she was and made a little visit to her at her place of employment. Did I mentioned that this was also where my husband had been working just a few months earlier?

I found her and introduced myself to her and asked her (strongly suggested, rather) that she follow me outside to talk. We sat at a table on the patio and a calmly took out pictures of my children and told her the names of each one and suggested that she remember them since they would now also be a part of her life. She told me that she thought Jason was already separated. I explained to her that could only be true if she considered the 5 hours since he pulled out of our driveway that morning a 'separation'.

Right about that time Jason arrived. Evidently one of his former co-workers called him and gave him a heads up to what was going down. He looked so angry at me. I stood and yelled at him and asked him, "How could you do this to me? You told her we are separated!?!" And he look right at me and said, "We are." I couldn't believe it. I came unglued. I spewed a stream of obscenity at him and hit and punched him repeatedly. By then the hospital security (that's right...they worked at a hospital) was on the scene and I was escorted from the premises. I left humiliated and called my Wicca friend(lets call her Sally) who consoled me.

That was a horrible summer. Jason told me that he was moving in with his friend Mike, but he actually moved in with 'her'. I spent our 3rd anniversary alone. Mother's day alone. My birthday alone. I sent my older kids to spend time with their dad and I spent most of my time with Henry and Sally. I wasn't able to work. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep.

So Sally and I started spending a lot of time working on our Wicca. I even cast a spell to get Jason back. Later that summer he did return home and somehow I forgave him (as best I could). Even though he disliked me practicing Wicca and was quite verbal about it, I continued to study and practice Wicca with Sally for another 2 years.

14 comments:

Candid Carrie said...

Uh oh.

Ronda's Rants said...

I can't wait for Part Two!

Hot Tub Lizzy said...

MAN!!!! MORE MORE MORE!!!!!

Ok, Where Was I? said...

What a story. Looking forward to more.

Tammy said...

I definitely want to hear more of this story! When is part 2 coming?

Z's Mom said...

Wasn't that part 2? Just wondering....

Anyway....I feel like I'm reading a novel....

Tammy said...

Wowzer what a story!

Thanks for stopping by my place. The husband's mission trip is going well. Sounds like the devil is trying to ruin it by two sudden death of individual folks on the team know. Keep up with them at http://calvaryrio.wordpress.com

Jennifer said...

Wow! You're story is so interesting!! I can't wait for more!!

jennifer said...

Hey My Friend! I came back and read this second part of your story, and yes, I want to hear more. I am so sorry about the hurt that you suffered through that marriage. I know so little about you and find myself wondering are you still married? Single? Remarried? Things that your story make me curious about. Regardless, you seem like you are living a blessed life now.

Take care.

Jen

Flower said...

I sure missed a couple of posts!!
You have me sitting on the edge waiting to hear how your life came to be where you are now.
Keep talking!!

Veggie Mom said...

Thanks for sharing this heart-wrenching, but definitely fascinating story. Just remember: It's what you've gone through over the years that makes you who you are today!

Well Behaved Krissy said...

I'm looking forward to hearing this. :)

Romi said...

You are one brave woman. I can't wait for the next installment of your story.

angie said...

Sounds like a truly terrible time! I used to love to visit Salem during October and see all the practicing Wiccans (?) swarm the city as well.

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